Friday, November 30, 2012

Handling Injustice Genesis 40


Sermon Nuggets Mon Nov 26 Injustice

Verses- Gen 40

Handling Injustice                                         

            If you ever have trouble with table conversation, start talking about dreams. Every one has dreams. I don’t mean goals and vision and hopes, but dreams while you are sleeping. Sometimes they are funny, or scary, or go back to childhood, or sometimes people even solve problems in their dreams. I have a recurring nightmare that it’s time to preach and I can’t find my Bible and sermon notes.

Many people try to interpret dreams. Some seek some prophetic meaning like in the Bible stories. There have been other examples of God speaking to people in their dreams like Abimelek warned not to take Sarah to bed or God’s judgment would fall on him and his country. He spoke to Jacob a couple of times in a dream, like the ladder to heaven with angels ascending and descending on it. God told Jacob in another dream how to mate the goats and sheep to increase his flocks.

Of course, I am so glad that we live at a time we don’t have to wonder what God is telling us in dreams or interpretations. We have the Bible and the Holy Spirit who speaks to us. I definitely gave up thinking God speaks to me in dreams. I had a dream once of a famine coming and severe draught and it was the rainiest spring we ever had. I dreamed one girl I knew in College who worked with the drug culture to witness to them at MSU was in danger and I awoke and prayed for her and when I saw her I asked her what happened. Nothing she said she was at home sleeping and hadn’t had any problems like that for some times. I also dreamed about giving someone some money. I did so and was told it was not needed and some time afterward there was no particular need for it, but thanks anyway. So I’ve closed the door on thinking God speaks to me in my dreams. I’d much prefer the Bible and the times with the Holy Spirit lays something on my heart.

The story today has to do with two prisoners who told Joseph their dreams and God gave Joseph the gift of interpretation. They both had a bad day. They made the Pharaoh mad and ended up in a dungeon with Joseph.
           
I saw on the email some examples of having a bad day. Have you ever felt like it was a really bad day? You know it’s a bad day when you turn on the morning news and they’re displaying emergency routes out of your city. You know it’s a bad day when the bird singing outside your bedroom window is a buzzard. You know it’s a bad day when your horn goes off accidentally and gets stuck when you’re following a group of Hells Angels on the expressway.

            Well Joseph had many bad days and even bad years. He experienced many injustices. But  the way he acts and witnesses of the Lord serve as tremendous example to me in a study on how to handle injustices.

            We will look this week on ways you can handle them.

Pastor Dale

Sermon Nuggets Tues Nov 27 Bitter

Genesis 40:1-9 Some time later, the cupbearer and the baker of the king of Egypt offended their master, the king of Egypt. Pharaoh was angry with his two officials, the chief cupbearer and the chief baker, and put them in custody in the house of the captain of the guard, in the same prison where Joseph was confined. The captain of the guard assigned them to Joseph, and he attended them.
After they had been in custody for some time, each of the two men—the cupbearer and the baker of the king of Egypt, who were being held in prison—had a dream the same night, and each dream had a meaning of its own.
When Joseph came to them the next morning, he saw that they were dejected. So he asked Pharaoh’s officials who were in custody with him in his master’s house, “Why are your faces so sad today?”
“We both had dreams,” they answered, “but there is no one to interpret them.”
Then Joseph said to them, “Do not interpretations belong to God? Tell me your dreams.”


Injustice can make you Bitter              
           
Joseph had every reason to be bitter. There were people who abused him. There may be people in your life who abuse you. That’s certainly a major cause of bitterness.
How do you think Joseph felt when he obeyed his father went to his brothers and the jealousy and hatred were so strong they wanted to kill him? They bound him and threw him into a pit and sold him to some Ishmaelites when they came traveling by.

Abuse was done directly to Joseph out of a spiteful heart by Potiphar’s wife who was embarrassed and angry that he would not go to bed with her. Her vengeful spirit was had him arrested and put in stocks and in a dungeon. .

People abuse others when they intentional try to hurt someone or do evil to them Abuse is always unjust treatment.  I know there are various degrees and circumstances of abuse I took a class at MSU on child abuse as a social problem in our society. I was made aware of some of the worse examples of inhumanity on the most vulnerable of people, children. The class was on social problems but we had an invited professor of social services for the state of Minnesota and he used this class as a soap box to make public aware of the magnitude of physical emotional, verbal and sexual abuse of kids.

I grew up in a Christian home were such treatment was never thought of. O yeah, I thought I was abused when I had gotten a spanking with a belt by my parents for misbehavior, but never burned, cut, hung upside down, had bone broken or had head put into a toilet or scalding water poured over my body.

Some of you know what abuse is like? Some of you know what it is like to live in a home where someone gets drunk and angry and begins to beat everyone. Some of you have been sexually abused and have felt ashamed, guilty and dirty. Some as children still carry secrets that you think it has some way been your fault and it wasn’t. People make choices to abuse other people just like Josephs brothers and Potiphers wife. They had the intent to destroy and hurt Joseph. 

            Now that is not all there is to injustice. Some may never be abused but you can say they’ve been misused. I think this is when people take advantage of you. These are people who generally are manipulators. They claim to be a friend or helper but use information to turn on you or get your money or a sale or gossip about you or spread lies about you. There are bosses that misuse employees, using them beyond what their job calls for. We see examples when someone will claim to repair a car and change parts that don’t need changing, or do work on house repair and persuade people they need certain treatment that just isn’t so.

            But as far as this passage goes there is an illustration of how people use other people. In this story the two prisoners, the butler and the baker used Joseph’s gift. Joseph had the ability to interpret dreams, remember a couple of weeks ago when he told his family some dreams. Joseph had this gift and these two men used it for their benefit.
           
Unfortunately people often use other people. They will use your gifts, talents, good looks and ideas and then get rid of you. Have you ever felt used, like someone told you a lie in order to use you? Even after helping the butler Joseph was forgotten and left in prison for a long time.
           
            One can become bitter. People might feel justified to be bitter. Some people think they have a right to never forgive another and will hold angry and hateful spirit for years. Such people never get over it because they do not want to get over it.

Pastor Dale


Sermon Nuggets Weds Nov 28 Barren

Gen 40 So the chief cupbearer told Joseph his dream. He said to him, “In my dream I saw a vine in front of me, 10 and on the vine were three branches. As soon as it budded, it blossomed, and its clusters ripened into grapes. 11 Pharaoh’s cup was in my hand, and I took the grapes, squeezed them into Pharaoh’s cup and put the cup in his hand.”
12 “This is what it means,” Joseph said to him. “The three branches are three days. 13 Within three days Pharaoh will lift up your head and restore you to your position, and you will put Pharaoh’s cup in his hand, just as you used to do when you were his cupbearer. 14 But when all goes well with you, remember me and show me kindness; mention me to Pharaoh and get me out of this prison. 15 For I was forcibly carried off from the land of the Hebrews, and even here I have done nothing to deserve being put in a dungeon.”
           
Injustice can make you Barren

Many people treat life as if there is nothing that can be done to change their circumstances and so they withdraw into depression, discouragement and a numb and barren existence. I see this in the faces of many prisoners in Rush City. Instead of making something different of their situation, they have blank faces.

To be sure I do not know each story. Many, in order to survive, do not want to get involved with anyone lest they be hurt more. Some realize the rule of the Armed Forces. Don’t volunteer for anything.

I think I see this in some people who may not have experienced injustice, but disappointment or changes in life. The writer of Ecclesiastes might sum it up by saying “Vanity of Vanity, all is vanity.” There is nothing to enjoy, or do but exist. It can be a depressing book. There are people filled with barrenness for they have given up on hope. They have stopped living.

I know people who have lost loved ones whose grief lasts so long and hard they close up themselves to do anything. They no longer get involved in the outside world. They do not go to activities. Their loneliness makes them a prison hidden from other people. They do not feed their body, mind, soul, or spirit. They stop growing; they stop living.

I have a book written by a hospital chaplain entitled, “Make this illness count.” He tries to help patients face facts that life has changed for them, but there is something to learn from each and every experience. Don’t waste your illness in bitterness or in barrenness. (he uses different words). We have choices to make even though those choices are different than before. We can give up or get up.

Instead of sulking in the cell Joseph used his gifts, skills, and spiritual life to make a difference in prison. His life had some choices to interact with prisoners and with guards. And most importantly he continued in his prayers and faith. God was with him even in the prison. He was given the gift of interpreting dreams and used that gift even when the butler forgot about him. He had administrative and leadership skills that he used so rose to the place of helping those around him. Knowing the butler would be out in three days also gave him hope so he asked to be remembered to the Pharaoh. He wouldn’t have that opportunity if he just minded his own business and refused to get involved with others.

As I face retirement I realize there are many who give up, sit at home, and do nothing. They soon wilt in their depression. But I have choices to make to get involved in growing in my faith and doing service according to my gifts and God’s opportunities. On lady who impressed me while a youth pastor was blind, old, bed ridden. I called on her every so often only to be encouraged as she showed interest in my ministry and prayed for me every day. Her life didn’t change much from day to day, but her mind was active and her spirit full as she could be encouraged in the ministry of youth through prayer and keeping up on their activities from her bed. She made an influence on my life and opened up a new friendship that wouldn’t have happened if she was closed up instead of opened up to a young pastor.

Beware of barrenness when life seems unjust. There are other things before you what wouldn’t be there if you just emotionally and spiritually drop out. Make your situation count for something as Joseph did.

Pastor Dale


Sermon Nuggets Thurs Nov 29 – Better

Gen 40: 16 When the chief baker saw that Joseph had given a favorable interpretation, he said to Joseph, “I too had a dream: On my head were three baskets of bread. 17 In the top basket were all kinds of baked goods for Pharaoh, but the birds were eating them out of the basket on my head.”
18 “This is what it means,” Joseph said. “The three baskets are three days. 19 Within three days Pharaoh will lift off your headand hang you on a tree. And the birds will eat away your flesh.”
20 Now the third day was Pharaoh’s birthday, and he gave a feast for all his officials. He lifted up the heads of the chief cupbearer and the chief baker in the presence of his officials: 21 He restored the chief cupbearer to his position, so that he once again put the cup into Pharaoh’s hand, 22 but he hanged the chief baker, just as Joseph had said to them in his interpretation.

Injustice can make you Better

            Joseph had another choice to handle his injustices. So do we. They can make you better. Joseph could have sulked and had a pity party and wallowed in bitterness or barrenness, but he made his circumstances better by using his gifts and abilities in leadership and was a model prisoner. He was willing to help others. He noticed these two men who were thrown into prison because they made the Pharaoh very angry. He listened to the cup bearer’s dream and told him he will be reinstated in 3 days and he was. But when it comes to the baker things are not all that good. He will be hanged and birds will eat his flesh.   

            Why is such a gruesome prediction necessary anyway? If you know what was going to happen to the baker and he was in prison don’t you think it would be better to not tell him?


Joseph’s task as an interpreter was not to create God’s message, nor did he dare to change it. He spoke as God directed. The message of the baker’s dream was one from God, and it was true. I think of that when there are parts of the gospel that I would just as soon not tell. But  the gospel is not our message to men; it is God’s

This prediction of his death also allowed him to prepare for eternity. Would it have been less cruel for Joseph to have lied to the baker about his future? If he had lied, then there would have been no incentive for him to consider his ways and turn in faith to the God from whom this warning had come. Far better to be warned of the “wrath to come” and to prepare for it than to be deceived and face it unprepared. The part of the Gospel is that you too will be like the Baker or the Butler. We are condemned due to our sins. One group will be forgiven and the other group will be destroyed forever. Right now if you have not allowed Jesus to die for your sins by confessing repenting and asking Christ to come into your life then you are bound for hell. God’s word says ‘God sent his son not into the world to condemn the world but that the world through him might be saved”, Jn 3:17, but the following verse reads, “Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because he has not believed in the name of God's one and only Son.”

The baker did not have a choice in the matter. We too do not have a choice -you will die and so will I. Where will you spend eternity? God’s word is not cruel, but offers for you an alternative to know that you will go to heaven. Will you say yes to Christ?

            How else might injustices make you better? Pastor Rick McKinnis noted that most people think to be happy or to be successful in this world you need to have good circumstances, and good relationships; Circumstances might be defined as car, boat, house, job, money and so forth. Good relationships means having some good friends, wife or husband to share life experiences with, and a normal to good relationships with kids, grandkids, parents and so forth. If things do not work out that way and dreams are not fulfilled then it is adversity. Adversity is when circumstances and relationships do not work out the way dreamed or wanted them to be.
           
            Some people will try to make it better by going out and shopping or buying new things, or playing music, or changing their circumstances to be something else. Some might party to forget or drink or do drugs so they will feel better. Some might read a novel, or go to a movie or work harder to keep busy. Sometimes that works. It is way of taking circumstances and replacing them with different circumstances hoping the other circumstances will change.
           
Trying to face it as a better person is accepting what cannot change and change what can be changed. I can’t do anything about. If I crash the car there is nothing I can do about it but either get it fixed or sell it or leave it they way it is for awhile. So I’ll change the situation by rather than feeling bitter about the accident, I’ll take steps that need to be taken to find different transportation, borrow a car, get a loan to buy another, or walk. It’s a better solution than to do nothing and let the circumstances get you down.

            Some might use injustices to do a personal inventory. It generally doesn’t help to make excuses for others mistakes. It helps to re-evaluation yourself and the situation as objectively as possible and learn from it and maybe make some important changes in one’s life. We might be tempted to blame others for the trouble we're experiencing.
Most certainly that could have been the way Joseph might have coped with his situation. He didn’t do anything wrong it was all his brothers fault, Mrs. Potiphar’s fault, Potiphar’s fault, and the Cupbearers fault that he is where he is.
           
Some will look at their situation and be somewhat correct when they conclude that The co-workers who don't do their jobs right ... the parents who failed to provide us with the love and support we needed ... the doctor who didn't diagnose the problem soon enough ... the crooks in Washington who take all our money and give us corruption and scandal in return ... the weatherman who told us it would be sunny for our picnic. If you look hard enough, you can always find someone partly responsible for the mess you face. But someone who wants to make things better instead of bitter say, I can’t do anything about what others have done, I can only do what I have decisions and ability to do. I can’t change my husband, but I can change me. I can’t change my kids, but I can change me. I can’t change my situation but I can change me within the situation. That is a positive and better step to take.
           
Pastor Dale

Sermon Nuggets Fri Nov 30 Blessed

Gen 40: 23 The chief cupbearer, however, did not remember Joseph; he forgot him.


 Injustice can make you be Blessed.

First, we should notice that the two dreams, when taken together, tended to strengthen the testimony of Joseph that God was with him and enabled him to interpret dreams. Joseph did not, as is often done, give nebulous and vague predictions. He gave two very specific prophecies to two persons, yet they were exactly opposite in their outcome. If both came true, it would be much harder to attribute Joseph’s accuracy to good luck. It was a means of giving glory to God.

            Had Joseph believed that if he only had the faith he could have been instantly delivered from his troubles, his faith would have been devastated by the fact that his troubles did not go away. If freedom from pain and problems is solely dependent upon my faith, then when pain and problems come my way, there must be something wrong with my faith. Joseph would then have been questioning his own relationship with God, perhaps even the existence of God, at the very time when he should have been ministering to others and giving testimony to his faith. If our faith does not endure the storms of life, what good is it?

            Now part of our problem even with making things better is a matter of perspective. We too often do not see the picture for what it really is. This might be illustrated by something I got in an email this week. I can’t vouch for the exact validity of the statistics, but I think it makes a valid point never-the-less.

            “If we could shrink the earth's population to a village of precisely 100 people, with all the existing human relations remaining the same, it would look something like the following.  “There would be: 57 Asians; 21 Europeans; 14 from the Western Hemisphere, both north and south;   8 Africans; 48 would be male; 52 would be female; 30 would be white; 70 would be nonwhite; 30 would be Christian; 70 would be non-Christian. 89 would be heterosexual; 11 would be homosexual 6 would possess 59% of the entire world's wealth and all 6 would be from the U.S.  80 would live in substandard housing; 70 would suffer from malnutrition.

1 would be near death; 1 would be near birth 1 (yes, only 1) would have a college education; 1 would own a computer When one considers our world from such a compressed perspective, the need for both acceptance, understanding, and education becomes glaringly apparent.

The following is also something to ponder . . . If you woke up this morning with more health than illness, you are more blessed than the million who will not survive this week. If you have never experienced the danger of battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture or death, you are more blessed than three billion, yes 3 billion people in the world. If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof  overhead, and a place to sleep, you are richer than 75% of this world.
           
If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish someplace, you are among the top 8% of the world's wealthiest people.

            If you can read this, you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world who cannot read at all.”

            Does that help put some things in perspective?

But we come to the look at things as they are for Joseph. I could think of all those who are less fortunate than him. He could have been beaten instead of been made in charge in leadership position with the prisoners. He could have been in bad favor with the guard than in good favor with the guard. He could have not had any communication with the others instead of esteemed by the others.
           
Pastor Rick McKinnis preached sermon on Adversity and he asks a very important questions. "could the equation of success we're following be wrong?" In other words, does that blueprint we saw earlier really work? My contention is that if it doesn't help you deal with adversity, then something's wrong. You have to be able to handle circumstances and relationships that don't turn out as you'd hoped in order to find success in any venture.

            Adversity tests the foundation upon which your life is built. In the first model, the foundation was the pursuit of good circumstances - job, health, money, home. (Please understand that I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with these desires. It's the way God wired us up.) But those things are fickle. They're unreliable, sometimes unattainable.      
            God is the opposite of all of those qualities. Faithful, reliable, available. And a life that has the pursuit of Him at the foundation is much better equipped to withstand the adversities of life. That's exactly what Jesus meant when he told the parable of the wise man and the foolish man. One had circumstances that were self serving. The other had a foundation for his life that was built on the Lord or the Rock. One did not stand when circumstances were difficult the other did. One crashed the other stood even though both went through the storms. Jesus was speaking of something more than house building he was talking about life building.

            Joseph story is also more about life building for even in prison in the worse of circumstances there was a different formula for handing injustices. It was the route of blessedness by the only true source of all blessing. It was in the relationship and foundation of his relationship with God that allowed him to make it., success is not ultimately about getting your circumstances right or relationships right, as important as those things are. It's about God. It's about pursuing him, first. And that's why Joseph, in spite of all the adversity that had come his way, eventually received the success that God had promised him

            Joseph didn't overcome the tremendous adversity in his life by denying his disappointment; he didn't blame others; and he didn't try harder. He overcame adversity and became a success because he built his life according to an equation that made the pursuit of God the most important element of it.

He was ready for the tests when they came. And I guess that's the most important lesson we need to learn in order to pass the test of adversity.

Realize that you don't respond to it, you prepare for it. Ask yourself, "on which equation is my life based?" What am I pursuing?  Finally, ask yourself, "what changes do I need to make in order to pursue Christ first?"

Pastor Dale

Saturday, November 24, 2012

Resisting Temptation Genesis 39


Sermon Nuggets Mon Nov 19 

Genesis 39

   When You're Tempted, Think of Joseph                  

This morning in the news it is reported Paula Broadwell, whose extramarital affair with CIA chief David Petraeus led to his resignation, is telling friends she is devastated by the fallout.

She warned socialite Jill Kelley to stay away from Petraeus and Afghanistan war commander Gen. John Allen, with whom she was having some romantic involvement.
Allen's nomination to lead the U.S. European Command has been put on hold, pending results of the investigation, though officials now concede only a handful of the emails between Kelley and Allen are of flirtatious or questionable nature.

Contrast that story with Cleveland Stroud who had coached the Blue Collar Bulldogs for 18 years before his basketball team made it to the championship. Stroud recalls that it was a perfect night when they won. “A night you dream of.” He was carried around the gym on the shoulders of his triumphant players and their proud parents.

  But two months after the championship, during a routine grade check, Stroud discovered one player was academically ineligible. He only played 45 seconds in the regional qualifying tournament. He struggled with what to do next. Yet, his commitment to integrity led him to the right decision. “Winning is the most important thing for any coach but your principles have to be higher than your goals.” He reported the error to the league and the Bulldogs forfeited their trophy. Then the team took their loss hard, but he told them “You’ve go tot do what is honest, what is right, and what the rules say. People forget the scores of basketball games, but they don’t ever forget what you’re made of.”

How do you handle temptations? We all have them. It is not a sin to be tempted.

Then again, do we really want to stay away from certain temptations? They are appealing. One man trying to stop drinking said, "As I passed the tavern I will not stop in unless there is a parking spot in front of the tavern; that will be the only condition.”  Soon he is walking in the tavern door. He told his friend" I had to drive around the block 7 times before the spot finally opened up." The problem with resisting temptation is that we really want to do what we have decided or told we shouldn’t do. We all are tempted.

Last week we looked at how Judah lived his life and the consequences. This week we will look at how Joseph lived his life and it’s consequences. One lived according to the flesh the other with the spirit. Judah left for a foreign land and lived like his neighbors. Joseph went to a foreign land against his will but lived for the Lord. Perhaps the most well known part of Joseph’s story is recorded for us in the temptation of having a sexual affair with his boss’s wife.
After his brothers sold him into slavery the travelers brought him to Egypt and made a profit when Potipher, Pharoahs general, buys him to work in his house. The Bible says that God was with Joseph in a special way so everything he did prospered. So much so that even Potifer’s household under his care prospered. He was given such leadership abilities by the Lord that everyone noticed not only him, but his God.

I want to review ways to handle temptations as presented in this chapter.

Pastor Dale

Sermon Nugget Tues Nov 20 

Gen 39: Now Joseph had been taken down to Egypt. Potiphar, an Egyptian who was one of Pharaoh’s officials, the captain of the guard, bought him from the Ishmaelites who had taken him there.

2 The Lord was with Joseph and he prospered, and he lived in the house of his Egyptian master. 3 When his master saw that the Lord was with him and that the Lord gave him success in everything he did, 4 Joseph found favor in his eyes and became his attendant. Potiphar put him in charge of his household, and he entrusted to his care everything he owned. 5 From the time he put him in charge of his household and of all that he owned, the Lord blessed the household of the Egyptian because of Joseph. The blessing of the Lord was on everything Potiphar had, both in the house and in the field. 6 So he left in Joseph’s care everything he had; with Joseph in charge, he did not concern himself with anything except the food he ate.

Now Joseph was well-built and handsome, 7 and after a while his master’s wife took notice of Joseph and said, “Come to bed with me!”

8 But he refused. “With me in charge,” he told her, “my master does not concern himself with anything in the house; everything he owns he has entrusted to my care. 9 No one is greater in this house than I am. My master has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?”

Fearing Temptation

Many people who fall into sexual temptations are often very successful pastors. They experience the hand of God upon their work. They are praised for their abilities and admired for their leadership and sought after for advice. Although it may be hard to understand many will compartmentalize their lives as work, home, church, and pleasure. And live as if these different compartments are inter-related. They can preach very inspiring sermons while at the same time in their private and personal lives be living a lie. Many will think they are above the laws and rules that other people are under because their abilities or position gives them special privileges.

Some who find success in their pursuits quickly forget that it is because the Lord allowed for those successes. Pretty soon, they falsely think it is their doing, through education, capabilities, hard work and influence that allows them to achieve. I am all for learning techniques and gaining ideas, but don't forget all the blessing we receive are from above.

When Joseph is confronted by Potipher’s wife he is lusting after his handsome body and is blunt to say, “Come to bed with me”. I want you.  What a way to show that you are the head of all the household when even the most powerful person next to Potifer can be your lover. That would be a great ego boast to a young slave, maybe even a sense of revenge for being a slave.

But Joseph immediately feared the situation. Having sex with his boss’s wife could mean death if not beatings and imprisonment.

We have heard in the news of some women teachers, as well as men who are infatuated by some of their high school students and are involved in love affairs with them. When they get caught they are not only ridiculed, lose their jobs, but also their freedoms. But for Joseph it was more than fear against his master it was a sin against God. That is what he feared the most. It would be against God.

Joseph saw such sexual relationships for what it was- wickedness, even though he was not responsible. I think we don't begin to have a grip on resisting temptation unless we can fear the temptation and realize instead of rationalize that we are being faced with sin and its consequences. We disobey God who is holy and righteous. There are things I wouldn't do not because I was more honorable, I afraid of God. There are many temptations that seem harmless enough and others are doing it, but I fear God; I fear the consequences knowing one is going against His will. Because I feel miserable until confession and forgiveness is faced. 

When David's was confronted with his adultery with Bathsheba he said "I have sinned against thee oh Lord and Ps. 51 we read, "For I know my transgression, and my sin is always before me. Against you and you only have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight.” Sin has consequence.

When someone isn't having the right relationship with God and something is blocking it, we need to pray as David did "Search me o God and see if there be any wicked way against thee.”

  It is also hurtful to others. Joseph knew that his master would be would be hurt by Joseph yielding to Potiphers wife's sexual advances. Since he had been so kind to Joseph, He didn't want to hurt his master with evil.  Although sin is primarily against God it is affects other people and often people we love. Certainly this is obvious with adultery.  It is a sin not only against God but against the married partner, youngsters and the other person and other families.  Sins of lying are hurtful to the one lied to, sin of stealing and cheating and gossip and anger, and hatred, and prejudice unfair treatment, poor wages, abuse.  It is not true that people have their own lives to lead and can do anything they want.  By their actions they sin against others.  Friends even in making business deals you must be honest and not yield to dishonest temptation for financial profit. I have gotten to know unchurched people who have been ripped off by members of our church and believe me it hurts the testimony of Jesus Christ. Don't be fooled by it.

Pastor Dale

Sermon Nuggets Weds Nov 21 

Gen 39: 10 And though she spoke to Joseph day after day, he refused to go to bed with her or even be with her.
11 One day he went into the house to attend to his duties, and none of the household servants was inside. 12 She caught him by his cloak and said, “Come to bed with me!” But he left his cloak in her hand and ran out of the house.

Facing Temptation

I am not sure that Joseph is the best example of facing what to do when there is the potential of being trapped. Perhaps we can learn the lesson that Joseph tried to ignore and hoped the problem would go away by saying no the first couple of times. The problem did not go away. It got worse.  The problem was with the person who was trying to seduce him. I do not want to preach an argument out of silence. There may be things Joseph tried to do to stop the advances, the story does not tell us he did. But once you are alerted to a problem it needs to be faced quickly for the likelihood of it getting worse usually does.  Perhaps Joseph couldn't do anything as a slave.

 There was a secret going on and Joseph needed advise, help, or confrontation with Mrs. Potipher. Perhaps a witness or trusted associate of his master since accusations by a slave to his master concerning his wife may have been cause for punishment since she would have clearly denied it.

When I was in Russia our translator received a love letter from one of the Deacons in the church. Although she was a new Christian she told him he was married and it wasn’t right. He wanted it to be a secret and be allowed to continue to write her. She asked me what she should do since it was flattering getting these notes. I told her as long as it is a secret it will grow. As soon as you share it with someone who can talk to the man, the secret it out.

There is something almost erotic about having secrets with the opposite sex that is not your spouse. You share something in common with no one else and there is a bond. The guise of confidentiality is sometimes a means of manipulation used to bring about worse results. I told her that she should share the concern with a mature sister or pastor and the two of them confront the man that if there are any more letters they will bring them to him with his wife present. It was a means of facing squarely the situation before it got out of hand and further sin involved.

We need to realize we are automatically drawn into temptation to sin by our inward desires. Facing it recognizes that there is potential problem. Admit it ourselves that something needs to be done.

The Christian that concerns me is the one that thinks it cannot happen to me. “Pride cometh before a fall.” I was surprised when an 80 year old explained he was still being tempted to commit mental adultery with women. Temptation is lifelong. When I hear of  a treasurer taking church money by embezzlement, it can happen to me. When I hear of someone who commits adultery I know it can happen to me. When I see pride destroy a ministry. I know it can happen to me. When I see jealousy wreak the ministry of other churches and pastors I know it can happen to me.  There is nothing that I also not capable of doing if giving the right circumstances, so facing it early can prevent what we don’t want to happen.

Now Joseph could have made up all kinds of excuses. ‘We’re alone and no one will know.’ That is true; ‘She made me do it.’ Right again. ‘Everyone else is fooling around, God will understand and forgive me, after all I am a slave and must be obedient to my master.’ Excuses, rationalization, and compromising your commitments are ways to further the problem. One man said it right “Tell the people they need to make up their mind before hand how they will handle temptations. If they wait until they are tempted it will be too late.”

Kids need to plan ahead what they will say when friends offer them smokes, or drugs, or alcohol, for it will happen. Plan on it. Plan how you will handle it when you’re on a date and the date wants to go further in sexual play than you should. Don’t come up with a plan when it happens for you won’t be thinking clearly. Plan on what you will do now when money is at your disposal.

Do you think we are put to tests by the Lord?  How is your IQ, your Integrity Quotient? What tempts you? Money that isn’t ours, pleasures that are wrong, cheating on taxes, or stealing a piece of equipment or materials at work, or school or in a store? Cheating on tests at school, plagiarism, lying? If there is something that you are being tempted with there is no sin in the temptation but in the yielding of it. Temptation must be the red flag that alerts our senses that something is wrong no matter how enticing it is. You need spiritual support from God and others.

Do you have people of the same sex who you pray for and can pray for you, and can be honest with and support and encourage for things of the Lord? We need small groups and godly friends to help us in the Lord.

Pastor Dale

Sermon Nuggets Fri Nov 23 

Gen 39: 12 She caught him by his cloak and said, “Come to bed with me!” But he left his cloak in her hand and ran out of the house.

13 When she saw that he had left his cloak in her hand and had run out of the house, 14 she called her household servants. “Look,” she said to them, “this Hebrew has been brought to us to make sport of us! He came in here to sleep with me, but I screamed. 15 When he heard me scream for help, he left his cloak beside me and ran out of the house.”

16 She kept his cloak beside her until his master came home. 17 Then she told him this story: “That Hebrew slave you brought us came to me to make sport of me. 18 But as soon as I screamed for help, he left his cloak beside me and ran out of the house.”

Fleeing Temptation

Now facing it and fleeing it sound like opposite instructions doesn't it? Joseph did right. There will be times when all we can do in a giving situation is to get out of that situation. Joseph literally ran rather than be seduced by the wife of Potipher.  That is not easy for young sexually interested and healthy 17-18 years old young man, when he had every opportunity available to him.  Joseph did right thing before God in fleeing the temptation even to the point of leaving his coat and being lied against.

I have a book by a former teaching in my office.  I studied with him in an independent study course in marriage counseling. I appreciated his insights and abilities. He wrote a book on protecting your marriage. Yet within just a few years after he published this book he was being sued by a client for sexual involvement. He knew what to do, aware of the problem, wrote about the problem but at the wrong time was unable to do what he needed to do which was to flee.

Satan is so shrewd, each exposure increased the chance that we will sin and each time Mrs. Potipher saw Joseph the desire increased.

In Joseph's case even in fleeing he was in trouble. Potipher's wife took his cloak and screamed accusing Joseph of trying to rape her.  There is nothing Joseph can do at this point as a slave, but be true to himself knowing where the truth lies, and trusting Christ

Did you ever wonder what went through the mind of Mrs. Potipher those years Joseph was in prison? Did you ever wonder what happened to Mrs. Potipher when Joseph later held a position of authority over even Potipher himself? But even if Joseph never rose to such place or power still she would have to face God as do we all. Vengeance is mine says the Lord, I will repay.

Crystal Michelle as high schooler understood that being in love wasn’t reason enough to become sexually active. One of her favorite quotes to spread her message of abstinence comes from Ann Landers, it goes¨”I met him; I liked him. I liked him I loved him. I loved him, I let him. I let him; I lost him.”

She has some answers for boys who pressure her if a boy says to her “Real men are sexually active. She will say “So is my REAL dog.” If he says, “If you loved me, You’d let me” She’ll say “If you loved me, you wouldn’t ask.” He says , “Everyone is doing it.” Not true I’m someone and I’m not doing it.” IF he says, “If you won’t let me I’ll find someone who will. “It was nice knowing you.”

  Here is her best quote “When we date, we start giving gifts, like flowers or candy. When a couple becomes engaged, they give special things- a diamond and very personal things. The most personal gift that I can ever give is myself. I have nothing more precious to give. When I marry, I want to give my husband the best that I have- my whole self as complete as I can. “ That is a gift best for your husband and wife for you wedding.

Pastor Dale

Sermon Nuggets Sat Nov 24 

Gen 39: 19 When his master heard the story his wife told him, saying, “This is how your slave treated me,” he burned with anger. 20 Joseph’s master took him and put him in prison, the place where the king’s prisoners were confined.

But while Joseph was there in the prison, 21 the Lord was with him; he showed him kindness and granted him favor in the eyes of the prison warden. 22 So the warden put Joseph in charge of all those held in the prison, and he was made responsible for all that was done there. 23 The warden paid no attention to anything under Joseph’s care, because the Lord was with Joseph and gave him success in whatever he did.

Fighting Temptation

Temptation for Joseph I am sure did not end once Joseph was sent to prison. He had a different type of temptation. It was to be bitter, despondent, and depressed. Joseph could have become bitter and angry at God for yielded to temptation but then another sin would have occurred.

Fighting temptation includes the armor of God. I wish I could tell you that went well, but look at what happened to righteousness and integrity of Joseph. First he was falsely accused, and secondly he was falsely put in prison. He could have falsely been killed also. Other have. Jesus was. Jesus said if we are going to be like him, things like that may happen to us as well. It happened to most of the disciples. They were in Gods’ will doing what was right when persecution and suffering came to them.

How do we fight temptation? Jesus said, "Watch and pray that you enter not into temptation.” He knew that in this world there would be a constant battle that needed to be fought with prayer, and with alertness to the spiritual dangers around us.

In the Lord’s prayer we are taught, “Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.” I think the reason prayer is proposed to be a perpetual part of the solution is that it allows us to have the attitude of humility. It is the realization that we need to be in the protection of God and it allows our thoughts to be upward.

Most sexual sins are yielded first with our minds. If Joseph’s thought were on this woman he would have failed. If they were on himself he wouldn’t have stood much of a chance, but his thoughts were on God. 

Another excellent strategy is to work on your own home situation. Keep a good communication with your wife and with your husband. Allow the love to grow and be satisfied in your union sexually as well. Don’t use it as a threat or means of manipulation.

What was it that Satan could not stand against when he was tempting Jesus in the wilderness? It was quote from the word of truth. Even when Satan tried to quote Scripture to Jesus out of context and to accomplish sinful ends, Jesus could throw it back at him.

Psalm 119:15 "Thy Word have I hid in my heart that I might not sin against thee." Fighting sin and Satan with the truth against his lies keeps us from hurt and pain.

I John 4:4 further reminds us "Greater is He that is in you that He that is in the world." We need to be on guard. We need to be alert for Satan sneaks around seeking whom he can devour.

There is story of wild ducks in S. Africa were boys put pumpkins in the river and allowed the current to carry them down to where the ducks were swimming. They were nervous about it and flew away, but watched from a distance these pumpkins were harmless. When they saw there was no danger, they flew back into the river as more pumpkins floated by. Then the boys had large pumpkins hallowed out that they put over their heads and they moved slowly and quietly into the water until their bodies were in the water and their heads were out inside the pumpkin. As they walked toward ducks they were able to catch them by the leg under the water and kill them.  How many are led into sin by saying, there is no harm in it? The devil likes to deceive us just as the ducks were.

I Cor 10:13 There is no temptation that is taken you that is not common to man but God is faithful with every temptation there is a way of escape that we may be able to endure it"

While the manager of a large estate was a young man was conducting his daily business, a wicked woman enter the room. But this young man wasn't surprised; she came to see him every day. He knew what she wanted-what she always wanted. She would attempt to lure him with her eyes, her words and her smile to entice him into an affair.

Assuming he could never fall into that sin, this man remained indifferent to her presence. He apparently thought this latest incident would end like all the rest; He would reject her advance and she would leave. So he went on about his business, a decision that produced severe consequences. Later he was charge with attempted rape and sent to prison for more than two years. This man did nothing wrong, but no one would believe his story. It didn't matter. His testimony was marred by not avoiding this woman. There are some lessons we can learn form this man. His name was Joseph.

There three important words to use in all similar situations; Just say No. Fear it, Face it, Flee it and Fight it.  The consequences are too severe to do otherwise. But given the choices I'd rather be a Joseph and sense the presence of God in prison, than a David and to have lost it with Bathsheba and he paid with great sorrow.

But even with a David who loved God but failed, there was the way back to God and that way for us is also through confession, repentance, and reliance on God our Savior and our Lord.  For the best is use his power to resist the second best is use his power to forgive and walk in the ways he prepares for us.

Pastor Dale

Saturday, November 17, 2012

Matters of Lust and Love Genesis 38



Sermon Nuggets Mon Nov 12

Gen 38

Matters of Lust and Love                                          

            Every Valentine’s Day there  is be a big push to buy things for the love of your life: cards, candy, flowers, dinner or more intimate appeal. There are many that get the message confused over love or sex.

The message our society gives is loud and clear. If you love someone of the opposite sex you express that sexually.  It doesn’t make any difference if you are married or not.  The Henry J. Kaiser Family Foundation monitors social mores, said sexual content featured in two-thirds of all television shows increases dramatically every year.  A U of California professor did the study but even this is 10 years ago.

``Every time there is sex on TV, there is an opportunity to deliver useful information to young people,'' said Kaiser Family Foundation Vice president Victoria Rideout. ``While some shows are taking advantage of that opportunity, 9 out of 10 do not.”       Clearly, 80% of the TV couples engaging in sexual intercourse are unmarried.
           
I am not sure we need an official study to tell us that Television programming makes us believe that various sexual exploits are normal and common and acceptable. It is not even a matter of just turning off the television set if you want to guard yourself or your families from material.

As a pastor I am not ashamed to say I have a pretty tame life. As I hope you would expect I find it wise to minimize temptation rather than feed it. I don’t subscribe to things that are questionable, I seek to visit websites that would be family approved, so imagine my surprise to discover how easily pornographic material is advertised on my bulk email. I could easily and innocently click in the privacy of my room that which would lead me to adult material plenty of it for free. Even the installation of Netnanny and other internet controlled browsers which I strongly recommend for Christian families can’t keep up with the fasted growing business of the year- internet pornography. All the free stuff entices men to visit pornographic pay sites, or phone calls and so forth. I am discouraged.

            I am discouraged when unsolicited and not once ordering any material of sexual content to find in my regular mail box advertisement for some of the raunchiest material. How does a young man keep his life pure? The Bible says Ps 119 by living according to the Word of God.
           
I hope you don’t misunderstand what I am saying. By God’s grace, not by my own flesh, God has allowed me to hit the delete button without opening up the letters. After first discovering what one of those blank envelopes has in them, I can throw them away without opening them up. I did return one asking to be removed from the list. We’ll see if that happens. There are many brothers in the ministry that by such temptations have become addicted to pornographic material. Industry knows it has most men hooked by such solicitations. People know lots and lots of money is made off this sin. 

I want to take these next two weeks talking about the subject of sexuality and temptations as we continue in our series on Genesis. The story today is of Judah whose compromises destroy his whole family and own life. Chapter 39 as we will see next week is contrasted with Joseph who seeks to keep his life pure.

God is trying to show us the difference between needs and misdirected desires, the difference between lust sex and love.

Pastor Dale

Sermon Nuggets Tues Nov 13 Sexual Attraction

Gen 38:1-5 At that time, Judah left his brothers and went down to stay with a man of Adullam named Hirah. There Judah met the daughter of a Canaanite man named Shua. He married her and lay with her; she became pregnant and gave birth to a son, who was named Er. She conceived again and gave birth to a son and named him Onan. She gave birth to still another son and named him Shelah. It was at Kezib that she gave birth to him.

Sexual Attraction

 Isaac learned about God from Abraham, Jacob learned from Isaac, Judah learned from Jacob, but there is no mention of God or divine influence in the marriage or raising of Judah’s sons who were so wicked God took their lives.

Judah’s troubles began when he left his home and Godly influences to go to a foreign country. He stayed with his friend Hirah, an Adullamite. While with Hirah, Judah saw a certain Canaanite woman whose name is never given. I take it from the fact that stress is laid on Judah’s seeing this woman that her outward appearance is what attracted him, not her faith or character, as a wife. Since this seems to have been influential in Jacob’s selection of a wife, we need not be surprised at this. It was a purely physical choice. Certainly no spiritual considerations were taken into account.

He lay with her as his wife and eventually they have three sons. While in Canaan the same words used for the rape of his sister Dinah are used for the way Judah finds a wife. Nothing is mentioned about anything of their relationships except sexual one.

As we have mentioned before the concern over marrying someone from a foreign nation wasn’t a matter of race, but of religion. Ruth was a Moabite, who converted and with the blessing of God married Boaz. It is a great love story. Moses married a foreign woman, Zipporah,  but both followed God. There are examples in the Bible of Gentiles and Jews who are Christians marrying, but where you have trouble is when a Christian and a non Christian marry each other. You have a mixed marriage. You have a divided household.

            Judah let other attractions lead his life, not Gods will. That, unfortunately, is not unusual among many Christians today. Some who call themselves Christians (they have a Christian background and Christian perspectives on many issues), act in the same way Judah acted here. They go about their daily affairs, relying on their own insight and intuition and ignoring what part God would want to play in their lives.

2 Cor. 6:14-16 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers”

The Bible speaks plainly about the dangers of close relationships with those who do not share our faith. There is very good reason for this. When we are involved in a "mixed marriage" or partnership of any kind, an erosion of our own faith is inevitable. In a desire to "get along" with the non-believer we inevitably soften our own commitment.
There is no better illustration of this than with Solomon. Solomon was the wisest man in the Bible (outside of Jesus) but he still drifted away from God. Why? It was because of his marriages to foreign women. Each foreign woman he married had religious beliefs that were different from him. So, to appease and show respect for his wife, he built a place of worship for her.
           
Most relationships begin with physical attraction. From about Junior High age on one gender becomes aware of the other gender and it is very good. God made it that way. But to build any relationship based on physical attraction is dangerous to your future. Commit your life to God and ask him to lead you to the right person and in his will he will lead. Look at the beauty God gave to Abraham and to Isaac, and even to Jacob, it is worth it.

Pastor Dale

Sermon Nuggets Weds Nov 14 Sexual Abuse

Genesis 38: :Judah got a wife for Er, his firstborn, and her name was Tamar. But Er, Judah’s firstborn, was wicked in the Lord’s sight; so the Lord put him to death.
Then Judah said to Onan, “Lie with your brother’s wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to produce offspring for your brother.” But Onan knew that the offspring would not be his; so whenever he lay with his brother’s wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from producing offspring for his brother. 10 What he did was wicked in the Lord’s sight; so he put him to death also.


Sexual Abuse

            Unfortunately, when Jacob found a wife, Tamar, for his eldest son, his wickedness was so offensive to God he died. Now we get into a complicated part of the story. I am glad this rule is seen today as inferior to Gods’ greater plan in marriage and that we have a means of taking care of families of the deceased with rights, insurance, and provision. That was not the case for widows and orphans back then.

The rule in the Old Testament culture was if the eldest brother died without having offspring the next oldest was to marry the widow and raise up the children in the name and inheritance of the eldest. Onan was next in line and Tamar was given to him to be his wife, only he resented the fact that legally the heirs would carry on the brother’s name.

            The Bible reads this way, “so whenever he lay with his brother's wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from producing offspring for his brother.” Kind of blunt isn’t it? This was a means of birth control I suppose. Through the years many girls found themselves pregnant when boyfriends practiced this method of birth control. I call it abuse. He uses the girl for sexual reasons not for love. The intent of Onan to use her but not for love but for sex, not for her benefit, but his. He fulfills his sexual duty for the family but abuses that relationship toward Tamar so she will not have a child. He uses her body but refuses her “honor” as presented in that culture.

What he did was wicked in the Lord's sight; so he put him to death also. What was wicked? Some have tried to make this passage the proof text for banning any method of birth control. I don’t agree with that interpretation. Onan didn’t do what was honorable, but what was selfish. Not only did Onan sin against his father and Tamar, but he sinned primarily against his dead brother. Onan put his own personal interests above his brother’s inability to continue the family line. Birth control (or any act, for that matter) is evil if it is motivated by self-seeking and if it is clearly an act of disobedience. “Whatever is not of faith is sin” (Romans 14:23) must be one standard by which we measure our every action.

            There is appropriate use of sex and abuse of sex. The very act of sex is instituted and planned of God. Some people think that there is not connection between God and the bedroom except the “Thou Shalt nots”. Our sexuality and desires were planned by God. Sexuality reflects the image of God. It has to do with permanent and holy relationships blessed by the Lord. We, unlike an animal act, can think, imagine, responds and interact. We can communicate with God and with each other. For sex to be the use of a body only is nothing short of abuse of God’s plan. What Onan did was not sexuality according to Gods’ plan.

Our bodies are to be shared openly with our spouses in marriage. God’s plan of becoming one with each other is not for recreation, but for endearing relationships. Sex works best when a husband’s focus is on adoring and affirm his wife and connecting with her emotionally as well as physically. That was not the way Onan treated Tamar. The New Testament tells us that our bodies also belong to our spouses and that marriage is to be held in honor among all and the marriage bed to be undefiled.”

 There are many restrictions in the Bible regarding extramarital sexual involvement, but there are no “do’s and don’ts” for sexual activity within marriage except to love and to honor one another. This is important to distinguish between lust driven sexuality that is based on mankind’s sinful, self seeking nature and healthy, enthusiastic sharing of such desires in marriage. As we share the way God designed marriage to be we become vulnerable with each other and experience a deep sense of warmth and closeness with our spouses.

Now we in our society have taken what God has said which is good and abused that in so many ways by selfishness. We treat women as play things, and men as toys. We have seen the abuses of children through incest and molestations. We have seen degrading of dating to rape and gang rape, and homosexual activities have in the name of the law. We  have unrestricted sex resulting in killing of unwanted babies through abortions and emotional neglect of women. So many girls are used by men having their sexual lusts met they discard them as used paper. The self-esteem of the woman is devastated.

            My wife is a school nurse. She has told me some stories that girls are telling her in private that would make your blood boil. The abuses of sex today have a profound effect for years and years to come on families yet to be. All of this could be prevented if people would seek God and follow his word in obedience and love. 

            God saw that Onan was using her physically, but not in love or honor, but as a body. How else she may have been abused we do not know, but why would God take Onan’s life while so many who do sexual violent acts still live? The only answer I have is this serves as a warning that God delights in holiness and judges wickedness, in His time.

Pastor Dale


Sermon Nuggets Thurs Nov 15 Manipulation

Gen 38: 11 Judah then said to his daughter-in-law Tamar, “Live as a widow in your father’s house until my son Shelah grows up.” For he thought, “He may die too, just like his brothers.” So Tamar went to live in her father’s house.
12 After a long time Judah’s wife, the daughter of Shua, died. When Judah had recovered from his grief, he went up to Timnah, to the men who were shearing his sheep, and his friend Hirah the Adullamite went with him.
13 When Tamar was told, “Your father-in-law is on his way to Timnah to shear his sheep,” 14 she took off her widow’s clothes, covered herself with a veil to disguise herself, and then sat down at the entrance to Enaim, which is on the road to Timnah. For she saw that, though Shelah had now grown up, she had not been given to him as his wife.
15 When Judah saw her, he thought she was a prostitute, for she had covered her face. 16 Not realizing that she was his daughter-in-law, he went over to her by the roadside and said, “Come now, let me sleep with you.”
“And what will you give me to sleep with you?” she asked.
17 “I’ll send you a young goat from my flock,” he said.
“Will you give me something as a pledge until you send it?” she asked.
18 He said, “What pledge should I give you?”
“Your seal and its cord, and the staff in your hand,” she answered. So he gave them to her and slept with her, and she became pregnant by him. 19 After she left, she took off her veil and put on her widow’s clothes again.

Sexual Manipulation

Judah had two sons who were now dead. He was thinking maybe Tamar is the reason the Lord is taking their lives. Does he want to risk another son if he were to marry her? It never seemed to occur to him that it was his sons who were the problem, not Tamar. So he will care for her, but told her to live as a widow and wait for son number 3 to be of age.  

In the course of time Judah's wife died. He was grief stricken. As a single man again he went about his work. He went to another city to shear sheep. Someone told Tamar her father-in-law was there. She had a plan. She took off her widow's clothes, covered herself with a veil to disguise herself, and then sat down at the entrance to Enaim, which is on the road to Timnah. The third son by now had grown up and yet Judah never gave him to her to wed. This part of the bargain was not kept.

            In her society not only were the younger brothers able to marry their brothers widow without children, but since Judah was now single he could do the same thing.  Tamar determined to force the matter by becoming pregnant by her father in law.  Judah was wrong in withholding Shelah, but so was Tamar by taking these matters into her own hands.

She didn’t just dress up to disguise herself she painted her self up and wore the clothes of a prostitute. When Judah came by she used her womanly charms to have him pay for her sexual favors.He went over to her by the roadside and said, "Come now, let me sleep with you." He propositioned her. Her plan was working. They agreed upon the price. But she wanted something she could prove it was Judah who came on to her.

The seal, cord, and staff each had distinctive characteristics, which were peculiar to the owner. The seal was the ancient cylinder seal used in the making of contracts. It was the counterpart of our charge cards today. Each cylinder had a unique design of its owner carved in it. When a contract was made, hot wax was put on the document and the seal was rolled over it, leaving the impression of the owner of the seal.

She was veiled and then in a dark area so Judah did not see her face and he was not interested in who she was or what she looked like, she was just the body to sleep with. In that one night experience she became pregnant by him.

Sex is a power thing. It is used to sell, to capture the attention of men. Beautiful and scantly clothed woman will pose in variety of ways to captures men’s interests to manipulate attention sometimes it is to buy all kinds of items, magazines, cars, watch XFL football shows, sell perfumes, and houses and you name it women have been used to manipulate buyers. Wives have also used sex and not love to get their husbands to do what they want, or get them what they want.  A common means of manipulation over men is withholding sexual involvement until they get their way. That is also abuse of the relationship for selfish purposes. Many women use sex as a tool of manipulation and not love which, like before, cheapens the expression of love and tenderness, of appreciation and procreation which God had intended.

Tamar got what she wanted and used clothes, perfumes, and sex to get it.

Our news stories are filled on TV internet and paper with the sexual scandals affecting the highest of ranking in the military. They men admit foolish decisions that jeopardize their marriages, reputation and career. We do not know who pursued whom. But appropriate concerns are raised to see if encounters were used to get and sell information of national security. Sexual manipulation has been to get what others want. It was not the way God intended it to be.

There is a difference between lust and love and we confuse the two and trade what is wonderful for married couple for immediate pleasures and cheap thrills and unwanted consequences.

Pastor Dale

 Sermon Nuggets Fri Nov 16 Lusts

Gen 38: 15 When Judah saw her, he thought she was a prostitute, for she had covered her face. 16 Not realizing that she was his daughter-in-law, he went over to her by the roadside and said, “Come now, let me sleep with you.”
“And what will you give me to sleep with you?” she asked.
17 “I’ll send you a young goat from my flock,” he said.
…..20 Meanwhile Judah sent the young goat by his friend the Adullamite in order to get his pledge back from the woman, but he did not find her. 21 He asked the men who lived there, “Where is the shrine prostitute who was beside the road at Enaim?”
“There hasn’t been any shrine prostitute here,” they said.
22 So he went back to Judah and said, “I didn’t find her. Besides, the men who lived there said, ‘There hasn’t been any shrine prostitute here.’”
23 Then Judah said, “Let her keep what she has, or we will become a laughingstock. After all, I did send her this young goat, but you didn’t find her.”

Sexual Lusts

When this encounter ended, Judah and Tamar went their separate ways. Later hi friend was sent to pay the prostitute and retrieve the items which Judah had given her. He asked for the whereabouts of the “temple prostitute”. Prostitution was a part of the Canaanite worship of the god of fertility. Judah was having more than an affair that fulfilled his physical lusts, but as far as the culture was concerned was participating in a ritual of worship to fertility god of the temple prostitute with whom men would have sex to somehow bless their own sheep so many ewes were have many lambs. Not finding the “temple prostitute” and, worse yet, being told that there was no such person to be found, placed Judah in a very awkward and potentially embarrassing position.

She wasn’t motivated by lust, but wanting a child. Judah was motivated by lust and greed. Seemly superstitious he was also protecting his younger son from marrying Tamar since two sons died. Lust is getting what we want. It is seeking to have our desires met. Apparently Judah was feeling guilty and wanting to cover up his sin. Here's a principle for you: If you feel you need to hide what you are doing . . . what you are doing is probably wrong! And the longer you hide the further you drift.

A young man (or woman) watches suggestive shows on prime time television. Before long it doesn't "bother him." In other words it no longer seems dangerous or inappropriate. So he pushes a little further. He starts watching movies that don't just suggest immoral behavior, they show it. It easily grows from there to more and more involved sexual interests. Most immoral behavior begins in what people think are innocent and commonly accepted entertainment. The world will always toy with as much sin as they can "get away with". We should expect that, but guard against it.

Frank was a young man with a lovely wife of five years. They had a child. He came to his pastor and confessed, “I didn’t intend for it to happen. There was this one night stand affair with a young woman at work. Recently, there hasn’t been anything at home. His wife had been so preoccupied with kids she just doesn’t have time for romance anymore. She’s been too tired and to be interested since the baby came. But I didn’t mean for this to happen. I’ve really messed up, I don’t know what to do. This will kill her. I couldn’t bear to lose her and the kids I can’t believe what I’ve done.” A moment of weakness is all it takes when lust gives full birth to sin and another family is destroyed.

Unfortunately one of the leading articles in the local paper this week was of a nice young man from a nice Christian home hired on at a school to be a teacher and coach. He was married and had a promising future until lust too over. His contact with one of his students has ruined his dreams and reputation. It takes so little to be led down a path that destroys.

Also in the news is of one of my pastoral friends who coming out of homosexual tendencies was put in tempting situations and his position as a counselor cause him to compromise his witness, testimony, position, and reputation. Lust kills.

TV and movies makes it look so much fun. We are bombarded with entertainment that appeals to our lusts and mocks Biblical values.

Satan has taken the lie of lust and the looseness of the morals of our society and produced at great expense divorce, AIDS abortions, unwanted pregnancies, and adultery. God warned often in the Bible when you live like the world and are a child of God you will suffer. All of these sexual sins were common in the surrounding culture of his day but God’s people were to live distinguished lives not giving in to lusts of flesh but to the desire of pure relationships which meet our longing according to God’s blessings. Lust occurs when we become more focused on temporary physical pleasure than finding our satisfactions in the design and desires of God.

Pastor Dale

Sermon Nuggets Sat Nov 17 Discrimination

Gen 38: 24 About three months later Judah was told, “Your daughter-in-law Tamar is guilty of prostitution, and as a result she is now pregnant.”
Judah said, “Bring her out and have her burned to death!”
25 As she was being brought out, she sent a message to her father-in-law. “I am pregnant by the man who owns these,” she said. And she added, “See if you recognize whose seal and cord and staff these are.”
26 Judah recognized them and said, “She is more righteous than I, since I wouldn’t give her to my son Shelah.” And he did not sleep with her again.

Sexual Discrimination

Now the story comes out that Tamar is pregnant and Judah, the father in law is so angry that he is ready to have her put to death. As she was brought up for judgment, she sent Judah a message. “Here are the items of the one who impregnated me.” There were the things that he left and now realized what had happened. He was the one who was caught in the act. She had a right to marry him and he didn’t fulfill his vows. 

What is upsetting is the hypocrisy of the double standard. This happens a lot in sexual discrimination you know. It was wrong for her to have illicit sex, but not wrong for me. It is okay to have her put to death, but as long as I don’t get caught I’m innocent.
It may have even been possible that Judah saw this as the solution to a problem of not having to give her to his youngest son.

What a shock this must have been to Judah to be faced with his own guilt and sin. He had to say of this woman, “She is more righteous than I” (26). She didn’t treat him the way he treated her. He does not say she is more righteous than he in the matter of the immorality committed, but in that she acted so as to procure a son that was rightfully hers, while Judah refused to give her Shelah as he had promised.

When President Clinton was caught in the acts of inappropriateness sexually with Monica Lewinski there were all types of denials until the evidence was produced and he was forced to admit his sin and his lying. At first there was outrage made by some of the senators and congressmen talked about his affair. It was only later that some of these men were guilty of similar actions. It was okay to judge the president as long as no one knew their secret.
It seems ironic of the popular outcry of two Generals who were prominent and now the director of the CIA lost his job over inappropriate sexual affairs, but what do we feed our nation on each and every night. Women are exploited as sexual toys. You will see that more even on ads coming into the Christmas season. I have boycotted Hardees for the way they directly target young teens with sensual portrayals to get people to buy hamburgers.

Why is it the girl is punished, but boys will be boys? That is hypocritical. Why is the girl responsible for how far a couple goes on a date? It is just as much the boy’s responsibility if not more so.

Sometimes discrimination at the work place against women especially have caused all kinds of laws suits. Equal work with equal pay is just as it should be. Women and men should expect work without harassment because a person’s gender. Each gender should be respected and honored, and treated as a brother and a sister, and not objects of sexual innuendos and language that causes embarrassment.

If Christ were in the work place where you worked, or neighborhood or school, how do you think he would treat females? If Jesus were in your conversations with the boys what types of jokes would he made or laugh at. Is it sex or love is an alternative that is far reaching not just with our spouses, but with the way our society calls us to live and the way Jesus calls us to live.

We are not our own we have been bought with a price, therefore glorify God in our bodies I Cor 6

Tama gave birth to twin boys. Perez and Zerah. Since the twin that was first to emerge from the womb traditionally possessed the rights of the firstborn, some kind of identifying mark was placed on the first to issue from the womb. When one of the boys thrust out a hand, a scarlet thread was tied about it, assuming that he would shortly come forth. The hand was withdrawn, however, and the firstborn was the other boy As later genealogies will prove, this firstborn son, Perez, was to be the son of Judah who would carry on the messianic line until the time of David, and ultimately, of Jesus (cf. Ruth 4:12; Matthew 1:3).

God in his glory shows his grace and choose Judah to be the line of the Messiah and the line of Tamar to be the offspring and ancestry of Jesus Christ. This is Christ’s family. Sexual sin, it should be pointed out here, and as is obvious by how this tale ends, is not the unforgivable sin. Failure in this area can always be forgiven. The Lord can even redeem our bad choices if we are like Judah, if we honestly admit to our wrongdoing, allow ourselves to be ministered to, and if we thereafter purpose to seek to live righteously

In Jacob’s day, as in our own, the same basic issues are at stake. The family was under attack, as the church is today, on two major fronts. The first is in the area of purity and separation. Judah eagerly committed the sin for which he (or at least his brothers) put an entire city to the sword. He married a Canaanite and would have had sexual relations with a cult prostitute. Today our children are facing incredible pressure to conform to the world around them, to date and marry unbelievers, and to forsake the faith they have learned from their family. Separation from the world is especially important in the matter of the friends that we choose.

The second front in Satan’s attack on the family and the church is the matter of unity and brotherly love. Joseph’s brothers had no brotherly love and no essential unity. Judah’s son Onan had no sense of obligation to his deceased brother and was motivated only by self-interest and selfish ambition. So far as he was concerned, it did not matter if Tamar ever had a child, but God had determined that she would be the one through whom the Messiah would come.

Perhaps some of you identify with Judah and Tamar because you feel you have made a mess of your life. You made bad decisions. You knowingly went down a wrong path. You sinned in horrible ways and have concluded that God could never love you or do anything through you. I hope you will be encouraged. The God who forgave them will forgive you. The God who transformed them will transform you. The God who used them can use you. It doesn't matter where you have been. It doesn't matter what you have done. What matters is where you turn now.

             Another son of Jacob handles a second incident involving sexual temptation very differently. That is our topic for next week.

Pastor Dale